It seems like every day another story is posted on Facebook that immediately enrages people. Seems like everyone has their panties in a bunch over something…and QUICK. Such is the way that the world works today though, with instantaneous news and equally instantaneous publicly posted rage in response. (Beyonce’s new song says that B word?! GASP! Whatever..who freaking cares?!)
I’ve decided lately not to get involved in the “Mommy Wars” that take place every single day between moms on Facebook and other places, mostly because they are absolutely pointless. Everyone likes to get involved under the guise of “educating other parents” but it’s really just a bunch of facts that people probably Googled or read on some propaganda website that supports their view. Nobody ever just spews facts..it’s always a “fact” mixed with some sort of low-blow or backhanded comment. “Circumcision does not lessen the odds that your son will get an infection…anybody that’s educated will choose not to circumcise!” Uhhh…ok, thanks for telling me I’m uneducated, I’ll totally take your advice now! Like I said, mommy wars are annoying wastes of energy and those conversations frankly just make me angry for the rest of the day. So, no more!
I no longer care if you think I’m a child abuser for making my 2 year old sleep in his own bed. Alone. Conversely, I also don’t care if you think I’m ruining my kid by letting him play with girl toys. Do. Not. Care. Mind your business.
Basically, I don’t understand why any mom cares what any other mom does. Unless kids are being neglected or abused…mind your P’s and Q’s. You aren’t making any friends by putting up your judgmental Facebook status about wanting to slap moms that forget to raise their kids chest clip on the carseat, or choose to forward face their kids’ carseat when they turn 1. If anything, you’re making people not want to associate with you because they don’t want to be judged themselves by you. I’ve probably done it myself before, but then I learned…it’s just annoying. Stop with the holier than thou jabs, mommies. Let’s be friends and support each other. Motherhood is hard enough without being torn down by passive aggressive Facebook posts every day.
I read a blogpost today from Jen at Keekoin.com that was written as a response to blogs over the weekend that called out “overachieving holiday moms.” Basically, moms that go above and beyond for holidays like St. Patricks Day by creating leprechaun trails and traps and leaving gold coins for their kids. The original post said that overachieving moms make life for other moms difficult…that we should “tone down” the holidays..because their kids are expecting them to do the things that we do for our kids, and the parents aren’t willing to do that. My response? Uhh..then don’t do it? Sorry, but I’m not going to change the way I do things at my house so that you don’t have to have a conversation with yours kids about how sometimes other kids get things that your kids don’t get. Should I skip my trip to Disney World this year so that your kid doesn’t get their feelings hurt when you don’t take a vacation? Silly. (Jen agrees with me…check out her blogpost HERE).