I have decided that for Lent this year I’ll be giving up Facebook and Twitter. In past years I’ve done things like give up soda or sweets….but I think giving up things like that misses the whole point of Lent. This verse sums up the reasons behind my decision to give up Facebook for a while:
“Beware of practicing your righteousness before other people in order to be seen by them, for then you will have no reward from your Father who is in heaven. “Thus, when you give to the needy, sound no trumpet before you, as the hypocrites do in the synagogues and in the streets, that they may be praised by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. But when you give to the needy, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, so that your giving may be in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you. “And when you pray, you must not be like the hypocrites. For they love to stand and pray in the synagogues and at the street corners, that they may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. …”
Facebook, often times for me, is about making sure other people know that I’m “good.” I’m a good mom, I’m a good Christian, I’m educated, I’m a good friend, I’m a good cook, I’m a good runner, I’m a good “attachment parent,” I’m a good Democrat. Making sure people know my kids are good and smart and beautiful. I bet if you dig down deep you’ll see that at least some of what you post on Facebook is posted only to be seen by others.
I spend more time uploading pictures of my kids than drawing pictures with my kids.
I spend more time talking about how smart my kids are than teaching them.
I spend more time reading status updates than reading
stories to my kids, or reading a novel
for myself, or brushing up on theology.
I spend more time debating with strangers than laughing while hanging out with friends.
I spend more time reading about terrifying world events than thanking God for my blessed life and enjoying the time I have here.
I spend more time chatting about baby products than cuddling my little guy, taking in his sweet baby smells.
I give out more “likes” than hugs.
I spend more time complaining about grad school than I do buckling down, sucking it up, and getting stuff done. Before the day it’s due.
Enough is enough. I need to start living in the moment and taking in the things going on around me before it’s all gone. I need to make better use of my time and stop complaining that I don’t have any. I do have time, it just gets sucked into the black hole that is Facebook. Facebook does have it’s perks. Networking, catching up and keeping up with old friends, angry cat. Hah. But, I think the pros of Facebook fall to the many cons (at least for me right now). I’ll still be blogging, but it doesn’t pay my bills so it will probably be less as well. I just desperately want to unattach myself from this computer.
So, friends, here begins my 40 days without Facebook. Maybe at the end of the 40 days I won’t miss it at all.