“If you breastfeed, the weight will just fall right off!”
“Women that can’t lose weight are just lazy!”
“Get walking the week after you have the baby and you’ll be fine!”
“Stay active while you’re pregnant and it’ll be easy to lose weight!”
” It’s not that hard…all you have to do is burn more calories than you take in.”
“Use My Fitness Pal…write down every single thing you eat, and you’ll lose the weight!”
Holy fitness advice.
It seems like everyone has advice about the best way to lose weight….but the truth is, if there was a universal way to lose weight then everyone would be skinny. It isn’t as easy as, “Burn more than you eat!” Immediately after pregnancy and during the months after birth, a woman’s hormones are all over the place. Hormones and metabolism play a role in weight loss, which complicates the cliche, “Burn more than you take in!” These factors affect every woman differently and for a different amount of time. The ease of weightloss is also dependant on how overweight you are to begin with. In my experience, the more overweight you are the easier it is to lose the first few pounds. Losing the first few quickly is KEY to staying motivated, in my opinion. When I was 200 lbs and losing 5 lbs a week I was MUCH more motivated than I am now, at 143, losing maybe a pound every 2 weeks. It’s just the way it is. When I work my butt off every day and the numbers on the scale don’t budge, it’s disheartening.
I also breastfed both of my kids. The first for 11 months, the second for 6 months. Breastfeeding adds a whole new level to weight loss, and not necessarily in the “it makes it easier to lose weight” way. As a breastfeeding mother, my number one priority was producing enough to feed my babies. Everyone knows that a breastfeeding mother should not be cutting calories and skipping meals. My priority was making sure I took in enough calories to produce enough for my baby. That, coupled with downing gallons of water every day, made weight loss more difficult for me. I never wanted to burn TOO much. There was a lot of confusion for me when I breastfed, because EVERYONE told me that the weight would melt off. It wasn’t melting off! Breastfeeding made me feel like a starving person. Both of my babies were big babies (8 lbs and almost 10 lbs) and ate ALL DAY LONG. I was constantly eating to replenish calories.
I am so tired of struggling with my weight. I don’t even know if I’m necessarily struggling with my weight…more like battling my love for food and my mommy exhaustion. Eating the wrong things all the time and being too tired and unmotivated to work out are two of the things holding me back from getting to my ultimate goal weight of 125. My daily schedule is anything but conducive to weight loss. I get up at 7AM, chase a baby and toddler all day long until my husband gets home at 6pm, we cook dinner, eat dinner, clean up, bathe kids, put the older one to sleep, then I do school work until midnight. We feed the baby a bottle, go to bed, wake up at 5am and feed the baby another bottle…then get up again at 7AM..and do it all again. It’s exhausting.
I do work out, but that happens during the day after breakfast and before naptime. I pack the kids and their 10 billion bags of junk up, load em in the car, drop them at the YMCA childwatch center, and run for 40 minutes or so…then pick them up and take them home…unpack their 10 million bags of stuff, try to get them to take naps. I think I burn more calories trying to get them to and from the gym than I do actually working out! I do this probably 4-5 days a week. I’d like to get more motivated to do some weight training after my runs. Right now I’m running 3-4 miles, with an average 10:15 mile. And it’s HARD….I don’t just trot for 3 miles, and I look like I got hit my a bus at the end.
Food isn’t a huge issue for me. We eat a lot of whole, clean foods. We could eat out less and I could eat smaller portions, but those are things we’re working on! My one vice is soda. For the past 6 months I’ve had 1 soda every day. The past week I’ve cut it out completely! I don’t even really miss it.
I’ve stumbled across an awesome sisterhood of fit mamas online called Mamavation. You can check it out at http://www.mamavation.com. It’s a group of moms committed to fitness and healthy living. These moms want to break American obesity trend and teach their families healthy ways to live. The moms there provide support and encouragement for each other, and hold each other accountable. I’ve applied to join Mamavation, and am really hoping I get accepted! On top of needing a community that can help motivate me, I desperately need support. I can’t tell you how many well-meaning people have said things that make me say, ” Seriously?!”
“Oh, good luck, I didn’t gain any weight when I was pregnant.”
“Oh, you should see *so and so*, she’s down to size 4’s already, and she had her baby right after you!”
“Check out this picture of me in my pre-baby jeans, holding my 3 week old..” (haha okay, that might not be a direct quote..)
…and the WORST one to hear, ” Oh, give me a break, you aren’t overweight!”
Really? Thanks for the support. In all actuality, I AM overweight. A lot of the people I’ve had weight loss discussions with are “more” overweight than I am, so they feel like my weight issue is insignificant. This just isn’t true. Unhealthy is unhealthy, and I deserve to be and need to be healthy just as much as the next guy. It isn’t a competition.
I desperately want to join Mamavation because I want to hear and offer genuine support, not backhanded compliments or snarky comments. I want to be held accountable for the things that I eat and the workouts that I don’t do. Right now, I have nobody to report to. If I don’t go for a run one day then I feel guilty for about an hour…then I move on. I need to feel guilty! I need to beat myself up if I don’t do a workout. When I get to 125 lbs…I can start to give myself a break. But for now, I need to feel guilty so that I can make it to a healthy weight and be a healthy momma for a my family.
I need some motivation…better yet…some Mamavation!
Here are my BEGINNING stats:
BMI: 27 (healthy BMI is between 18.5-24.9)
Pant size: AE 12-14 short
Here are my GOAL stats:
Pant size: AE 8 short
I don’t have an end-date yet for my goal of 125. If I lose a pound per week, I can lose this weight by the end of May. That will be exactly a year after my c-section with Peyton. I can’t even tell you what it feels like to think about being at my ultimate goal weight by the summer. Exhilerating, exciting, empowering…I feel like with the help of Mamavation, I can do it!
My before pictures:
1 month after giving birth, at 180 lbs
3-4 months after giving birth, at 160 lbs
7 months after giving birth, at 143 lbs